What was the number one thing I wanted to be when I grew up?
I’m Danielle Daily, and after being together with my husband for more than 15 years, he decided he wanted a divorce. In 2015, on the eve of my TEDx talk*, I came home from yoga class to find divorce papers taped to my front door.
Although there was nothing I wanted to do more than curl into a ball and cry until I shriveled up and died, at just 35, I had a hunch that I still had a lot of life left ahead of me.
But, how was I going to go on now that my dreams of being happily married and growing old together had been crushed?
I was 19 when I met my husband. Now I was 36 and Single for the first time in my adult life. I felt like a huge failure and so, so ALONE. I couldn’t think of anything worse than facing the world as a Single person at this age.
It wasn’t easy, but I decided that instead of allowing my life to be diminished by my Suddenly Single status, I would reframe it as an opportunity to embark on a grand new adventure. One in which I’d test my own mettle, slay every one of my inner dragons (like fear of ballroom dancing) and find a way to feel more fully alive on a daily basis than ever before (or die trying!).
Suddenly Single, I decided I was not going to let my lack of a partner cause me to live a life that felt like I dying instead of living.
I would not let my fears of being left for dead in a ditch somewhere keep me from making new friends and having new experiences. Yes, I was afraid as I created new relationships and explored new areas, but I would not let that fear hold me back from working to find happiness without a husband by my side.
I don’t know how or why you ended up Suddenly Single, but what I do know is that what you need to focus on at this moment is NOT finding the person you will spend the rest of your life with, but on BECOMING a person YOU are thrilled to spend each day with.
Explore who you are as an independent human being and start living life to the fullest, right now. TODAY!
I know it’s not easy to think about adventuring, exploring, building a new relationship with yourself and breaking new ground when your vision for your future has been shattered (all that hard work…just, gone). But trust me, moving forward is what needs to be done and you CAN do it.
I’m here to provide a little helpful wit and wisdom as well as bring in guests who can help show you the ropes to feeling confident in your Suddenly Single life.
Before you know it, you’ll be reframing your Suddenly Single status as a grand adventure and eagerly pushing yourself forward towards becoming the person you’ve always aspired to be.
Today begins a whole new chapter in your life, and I can’t wait to hear where this adventure takes you! Drop me a line anytime by using the link on the homepage. Thanks for being a fan of the show and please come find me on social media so I can get to know you (I left you links to where I hang out at the top of the page).
Love and lots of adventures,
* P.S. I pulled myself up by my bootstraps, straightened my skirt, and got up on that TEDx stage to give my talk anyway. Proudest moment of my life! Then I wrote a book about how I stayed positive and kept going while I grieved titled, Dear Self, I Love You! Keep Going! You can find it here on Amazon.